Contrary to popular opinion (of me), I don't actually fancy being solitary. I just prefer my own company when what available company are those whom I don't particularly care to keep. And I'm a rather particular person. My taste in character is what hampers me from being 'social'.
I can be 'social', and 'talk more' given that the other party is receptive & interesting. Generally I define 'interesting' as people who read (note: ppl who read chick-flicks only don't count as ppl who 'read'). Y'know, the kind worth investing your energy in conversation with. Not the sort you'd talk about the weather, general small talk, *insert a myriad of humdrum topics*.
Friends = people that I regularly talk to & hang out with. I go to great lengths to keep in touch with them (even if they study in Malaysia or the U.K. or new zealand etc. & I can only meet up with once in a blue moon (shout out to you, Maya heh). People whose thoughts I am privy to just as mine equally are to them. People that I actually miss when not around.
Acquaintances = people I'm on friendly terms with but don't really keep in touch with (i.e. housemates, distant school peers).
I mean really, when you meet cool people, you just know you're going to be friends with them. 'Cool' as in those with common interests or uncommon interests that are interesting. 'Cool' as in your wavelengths just jive together regardless of em' matching perfectly or not at all. For example, there's this one girl me & a friend got to know via twitter. We met up a couple times over the summer break, and just hit it off (yes Huda, you hehe).
Some people think they're interesting & unique & random & shizz when really they're just common with a extra seasoning of being plain annoying. I usually just humor these types & let em' please themselves while in my mind I quote Winnie the Pooh, "Oh, bother." Honestly, I prefer the company of people with no particular hobbies etc. but who are nice just to be around with. Quiet, pleasant, uncomplicated, most importantly non-annoying, ones.
I digress, what I'm really trying to do here is to debunk the whole 'go out, make friends' bs I've been lectured with over the years. You don't just 'make' friends, they come to you as the rizq comes to you from the Sky.
aww. i fall under the category of 'leana's cool friends'! that's flattering! thank you. and plus, i think there's no wrong in having small group of friends. i don't see the use of having an ocean of acquaintances that doesn't care about you anyway.
ReplyDeleteYou totally do. Very much welcome hehe. Yep, I'm lucky enough to have enough friends :)
Deleteamboi amboi kutuk aku le tu heh
ReplyDeletedude part mana plak ni. perasan lah kau.
DeleteHi-5! Meh. Hehehe
ReplyDeleteteringat suatu masa dulu kawan2 ajak aku g karaoke ramai2 lepas habis exam, and I insanely turned that offer down. Started and finished Kafka's Trial instead. hewhew.